Tuesday, May 5, 2015

Season of The Empty Nest

It is another hour before the day is over.


I think it was in 2009 when I decided to privatise my blog. I was getting uncomfortable knowing some people I know in real life were reading it.



The blog was a life away from "life". The "life" which I trying to manoeuvre with three little kids whose life were dependent on me.



The blog was an avenue for me to vent my deepest feelings.



It was also a place where I could express joy while raising my Brood post divorce. It was a bittersweet experience. Looking back, I honestly do not know how I did it. At that time, somehow Allah gave me so much mental and emotional strength. Physically I was strong, active and always on the go - so having to take care of 3 kids was not really a burden to me. As a matter of fact, I enjoyed the life we had. I was happy. We were happy.

Well, of course Bibik was with us then. THAT helps a lot. And arwah Bapak stayed with me most of the time, so my Brood had the father figure that was denied from their own.


What happened since then.


My Brood has grown.


Abang is working after graduating from university last year. Kakak is in second year university and Adik is in Form Five. Both the boys are with me at home. Kakak stayed on campus a mere 30 minutes away.


As they are busy growing up, I was slowly growing old. I passed the half century milestone. 
With my Brood are now busy finding their own place in this world, I am finding time to amuse myself. Few years ago, I went back to school and earned myself an MBA. I did it for my own self satisfaction. And also, to amuse Abang who just entered college about the same time.

 And I started travelling. I would go to Matta Fair every year to find travel deals. And I travel quite a bit every year. Sometimes I'd bring the Brood but most of time I go with my travel kaki. I also travelled solo once to Jogja. Semua orang tak percaya I did it. Yup, I did.



I also remained single. No plans whatsoever to change the status (quo). Tapi orang tua kata cakap siang pandang-pandang. Mana tahu kot Kanda Bolkiah hantar pinangan, takkan nak tolak pulak kannn....



There. 



How's that for a start?


38 comments:

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    1. Waalaikumussalam Pak Zabs..😄

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  2. Yess..mmg menunggu update..ameen MA

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  3. Baca tulisan MA membangkitkan nostalgia lah.. :)

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    1. Apa khabar? Lupa dah nama kat reban dulu 😅

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  4. Tengah sentimental baca ending yang tak boleh blah hahahaha

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    1. Lollies : how big is jackjack now? Haha ending yang sengal I'd say..😁

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  5. Tak agak agak calang-calang orangnya! Kanda Bolkiah terus!!

    Well done on the milestones....kagum! Masha Allah

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    1. Tu lah pasal, kanda bolkiah tuuu! Terus gelak.

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    2. Orang kata kalau nak mimpi biar sampai ke bintang..cewah 😍

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  6. MA I think we all grow up together the goods and the bads and I can say Alhamdulillah the kids have been brought up by a wonderful mother and kalau pinangan tu dtg jgn di tolak ye kalau tak pun pas kat sini pun bolih...kah kah kah

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    1. Alamak. Ada competition pulak. *tolak Kak Elle ke belakang barisan*

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  7. Missed ur brood stories...want more updates!

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    1. Brood have all grown up. Updates kena tunggu jetlag tak habis2 lagi ni..

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  8. Happy to read this. Keem em coming please. Love..love..love..

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    1. Thanks Arena - maybe in next couple of days to gather my thoughts..

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  9. MA, I am one of the frequent readers here. Not sure you still remember or not but thats not important really. I love reading your tales. Masa tu anak2 I kecik2 lagi so by reading your posts, gave me an insight. Panduan serta sempadan.

    Now my eldest same age with your Adik.

    Glad to meet again MA!

    #iwasondeonde
    #iwasOO

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    1. Yes, I remember Onde-onde. Time flies doesnt it?

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  10. Coming here now I never thought I'd miss the Like button. But I Like and I'd like you to do that last thing. Ingin sangat nak bermalam di Dorchester hotel.

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    1. Haha..Abg Wan, اَمِين يَا رَبَّ الْعَالَمِيْن ..Insya Allah one day dapat lah kot duduk Dochester tu..😝

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  11. I was one of your silent reader back then...love reading your blog

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  12. Aim kena la tinggi melangut!! Baru jadik!!

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  13. I have missed you!! Even tho we are friends on FB

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  14. Thank you All - am travelling now. Will respond once I get my sleep and timezone synchronized..

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    1. Am back and still having problems synchronizing my sleep..😥

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  15. glad to read about you here..again..

    blog lama tu, kalo masih active writing, jgn lupa jemput saya masuk :)

    enjoy trip!

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  16. glad to read about you here..again..

    blog lama tu, kalo masih active writing, jgn lupa jemput saya masuk :)

    enjoy trip!

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  17. Ha ha Andeh.. kalau Kanda Bolkiah boleh aje.. ek, Aku pun tak tulis pasal anak dah, budak2 dah besau dah tau malu, nanti kena komen lagi mereka malu

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    1. Betul tu Sya. Budak2 dah besar kena hormat privacy diorg gak.

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